"You can certainly count on me to understand the word 'no' for what it is," he says, his tone changing to one of cautionary alarm.

"Damaged? That's a harsh thing to say about oneself. Does this have to do with the incident you wanted to speak of privately? You have extended your trust to me this far and I appreciate how hard that may be for you. Will you tell me what happened? Please? There is nothing binding between us, but I confess I ask now out of worry for your wellbeing."